Breakups, getting 'friendzoned', one-way romances, rejected loves and waking up from imaginary mutual love affairs can be the most tragic and painful part of your beating, feeling, and sensitive heart. It makes you feel like you’re Shakespeare, the most unloved drifting plankton, or a demented suicidal teen with nothing to look forward to in life. Sometimes it takes a long time to let go, forget, and recover from heartbreaks. We’re humans with emotions after all :)
As your #TitaOfManila who had suffered from crushes who do not know that I exist, #paasaLoves, and one-way romances that got me feeling emo and scarred for a short time, I made a list on how you can get first aid treatment from your heart tragedy:
1. Make a list of his flaws and a list on why you’ll never be a great pair.
It sounds evil but it helps. Sometimes the best way to recover is to believe and understand why you do not deserve each other.
2. Look for great distractions. Transform brokenness into inspiration.
Divert your heartbreaks into something more productive-- in the form of vying for the employee of the year award, crushes, books, movies, art, poetry, hobbies, workouts. Sometimes heartbreaks can turn into beautiful motivations in life.
3. Never blame yourself and do not over-analyze.
Do not pity yourself and be bitter. Do not get mad at yourself. Do not sulk with the useless “what if’s” and “what have I done wrong.” Be reminded that sometimes things aren’t just meant to be. Appreciate your happy moments and let go.
There are days when you just want to escape the city jungle without traveling too far. Days when you want to take a break from the usual chaotic metro, yet you do not want to be away for a long time.
Pinto Art Museum lets you do that in a day: escape the city without burning your gas money. Located in Antipolo City, it is a mere 30-minute drive from Quezon City.
Most people are allergic when they hear “art gallery” or “art museum.” For non-art connoisseurs, sometimes it sounds too serious, boring, and artsy-fartsy. But fret not, art museums can also be FUN.
Kung sino man ang darating,
maaaring dahan-dahanin mo ang ating pagkakilala.
Maaaring nasa loob ka ng iyong oto,
habang ako'y patawid.
Paparaanin mo ako. Ngingitian kita.
Kung sino man ang darating,
maaaring magkukrus ang ating landas sa hindi inaasahang pagkakataon.
Maaaring nasa magkabilang panig tayo ng LRT2,
at parehas tayong naghihintay na lumuwag ang tren
If you’re a millenial, you probably know what fuckboi/fuckboy/fuccboy means. And for the not-so-millenial, it only refers to man-whores or guys who want to hook up with almost everybody.
The definition may be straightforward; but the real challenge is to identify them. Distinguishing fuckbois from normal guys can be tricky, especially if they’re camouflaging from all those seemingly good traits (handsome, hot, smart, gentleman, funny, sweet) that you do not want to associate with a dirty name like fuckboi.
Years ago, one must have a good gaydar. Now, there’s a relentless need for a sharp “fuckboi radar.” A more dangerous dating world indeed! As your #TitaOfManila, I created a guide to help you know if you’re dating a fuckboi:
As your #TitaOfManila who has tried dating plenty of times (sorry dear parental units, but I dated too many guys without your knowledge) in a span of 5 years, I feel like I have some sort of responsibility to share with you, dear boys and girls, some warning signs that you should be aware of while you are dating. I am obviously not the expert with my success rate of 0%, but maybe you might absorb some wisdom from this super picky Tita :-P
1. He or she changes his/her Facebook profile photo more than a teenager uploads a temporary profile pic.
Sorry to hurt your social media feelings but your date has high probability of being a narcissist. Gym selfies, Tiger photo selfies, More face than background selfies, Selfies with celebrities, Duck face selfies, Selfies showing their luxurious bags/cars- STAY AWAY FROM THEM. THIS IS A WARNING. You will soon find out that he or she perceives that the world revolves around them.
2. He or she whines all the time.
I think this is applicable not just in picking partners but also in choosing friends. Why would you want to be with a negative person? Sure, we all face problems in life but there's no point in ranting about your issues ALL THE TIME. Even if you're a good listener, negative people will suck out all your positive energy. You can never have a healthy relationship with a toxic person.
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I can still vividly remember that first day--
A Norah Jones song strumming in a nearby bar
How we both have grinning eyes as we watched fire dancers steal the show
That kiss that dissolved the taste of pale beer
The sound of kids laughing at two adults oblivious of passers-by
And how you stared at me with certainty
We will see each other over and over again.
I can still vividly remember that last day--
Alexi Murdoch playing on your speaker
How I cried for no reason
That trickle of your kiss that momentarily consoled me
The sound of last call for boarding
And how you gazed at me with finality
We will forever be apart.
When I was born into this world, my Mama was 33. I was her fourth child, the youngest, her Minnie.
33 years later, I am 33, single, and still my Mama’s Minnie :)) I may not have turned out to be what I expected myself to be when I was 3 (yo it rhymes!), yet I am happy and contented with my beautiful life experiences and the wonderful people I’ve crossed paths with.
As dramatic and sentimental as it may sound, I am listing down some of my life’s lessons to remind myself about my positivity during my darkest moments. Maybe you’ll also learn something from the oldie Tita :-P
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