”Pain is temporary. Quitting is forever”
I’ve heard this mantra in races but I did not realize that this can also be applied in the search for my elusive soulmate... by the generous people around me. Temporary pain brought by their unwavering hunt for “the one.” And with six long years of their dedicated prayers and blind date suggestions, it seems that the world will not quit on my ‘lonesome’ heart.
Being single can be funny, especially when you’re surrounded by concerned citizens who are trying their best to end my (non-existent) misery.
I spent 100 rupees to become 'Indian.'
It's the cheapest and sweetest amount I've paid to 'experience' a 'change of nationality' for 15 minutes. But before I share with you my story of becoming an 'Indian,' I would like to take you to Jaisalmer Fort, the place where I got to wear my Indian chameleon and the one I consider as one of the most beautiful forts that I've seen in this lifetime.
There is always a pattern
How x, y, z, and other variables, once upon a time, will pop into my life--
That familiar first look
The exchange of how are yous
Those carefully chosen words desiring to impress
That flirtatious gaze
The reciprocity of knowing
That unspeakable spark when the hand finds its way to my clasp for the first time— again.
I can still remember those sad eyes
and how I made it glitter for the first time
when I said that I listen to Bon Iver and that I am an INFJ
I can still remember those pursed lips
and how I made it pucker that time we met again
when you said “I forgot how beautiful you are.”
There is more to India than Taj Mahal, spicy food, yoga, holy cows, and its legendary traffic jams.
To sum up my 16 days of travel here, excuse the pun... but I got a little bit curried away. I found myself wanting to return to this country full of life, contradictions, and warmth.
Here are some of the reasons why I fell in love with India:
Dream destinations (most of the time) only remain in dreams. Saving for your dream travels can be really hard especially if you only have enough salary to pay for your bills and loans. But if you have a mindset of a thrifty traveler who would do anything for traveling, dream destinations can also be turned into reality.
Here’s a list of my #TitaTips on how you can save for your dream travels. Yes, they’re all achievable!
What makes your favorite place special?
Is it the variety of activities? Historical relevance? Richness of culture? Breathtaking views? Or delicious food?
I think as much as the visual treats or any tangible aspects of traveling, the intangibles play a more important role in making travels extraordinary. For me, it will be the connections I’ve made with the locals and fellow travelers that will always stand out. And this is why I say that the Philippines will always be #1 for me. I might sound biased being a Filipina, but I will say it again and again that nothing compares to Filipino hospitality.
Online dating still carry a stigma especially in a ‘conservative’ country like the Philippines. If you tell your friends or relatives that you’re dating a guy you’ve met online, I’m sure that at least 80% of them will raise an eyebrow. Most people see this modern type of dating as desperate, shallow, creepy, and dangerous.
I also used to dislike the idea of it… until my friends forced me to sign up on Tinder :-P At first it was entertaining for me, seeing funny narcissistic photos and learning about the often predictable conversational lines of men. And then, without me knowing the effects of those evil apps, swiping profiles became a habit for me (especially while pooping bwahahaha).
And while plenty of people have bad stereotypes on online dating, we should embrace the fact that these modern-day apps are now 1) widely used by millennials and 2) great tools to find whatever dates you’re looking for.
Just like any kind of dating (speed dating, dating someone you danced with in a bar, dating your admirer, etc.), online dating has its pros & cons and your Tita Jazz will let you know why you should and why you should not try it out:
If utopia exists, I am hoping that it bears resemblance to Meteora: Karsts reaching up to the heavens. Silhouettes of jagged giants at night. A calming view of villages from the summit. Red-roofed monasteries that seem to float above the clouds. Silence only broken by the sweet melody of chirping birds and occasional winds. A non-fictional world carved out from an animated film.
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