1. People will never get you. “Why are you single?” seems like an existential question that everybody deserves to know. It’s as if you’re the only one with defect and the married/in a relationship people around you are normal human beings who want/force you to live a ‘normal’ life. You know you’re living a normal life (maybe happier than theirs) but they do not and will never get you (even if you answer their WHYs countless of times). You think that they will get tired of questioning you, but no. They will not stop so you must learn to embrace the fact that some people are just terrible at comprehending your state of ‘singlehood.’
2. There will always be occasional sadness. Romantic cities, restaurants playing love songs, starry nights at the beach, reunions where you’re the only one without a +1— yes, life can become sad. But sadness is sadness that just goes away (faster than LQs, third party brouhahas, divorces, and babysitting duties). We will always carry on with life.
3. Hashtag ALL CAPS BLESSED! Freedom will always be your best friend. No restraints, no fixed plans, no bosses, no compromises, no responsibilities to restrict your ambitions in life, no partners to ask for permissions and assurances. Hell yeah, freedom is one great thing to have while you’re single.
4. Since you’re most of the time alone in this world, you’ll get used to yourself. Being alone can sound scary but once you get used to it, it can actually mean being comfortable and brave with yourself. And your life becomes even more beautiful when you become ok with yourself, without needing a company to survive in this world.
5. Being single for a long time will teach you to care less about what other people think about you. You don’t need their constant approval and recognition. Your newfound independence makes your inner self say, “Thank you very much for your opinion on me, but I don’t give a $%^&.”
6. At first, you might listen to the voices pressuring you. But after a long time, you will finally get it. You don’t feel sorry for yourself. Instead you feel sorry for the people questioning you and taking pity on you.
7. You know what you want and you will never lower your standards. Because you’ve been single for a long time, you learn to be more picky. You’re not looking for the perfect one but because you know yourself more, you know who’d be a good one who can suit your personality.
8. You learn doing things alone and you actually enjoy doing things alone. Yes, some things are better enjoyed with company but sometimes you have to start living your own life. And once you start doing it your OWN way, you’ll learn to enjoy doing things alone. Running, going to bar and restaurants, attending concerts, shopping, traveling, watching movies, etc. — There is a world out there even if you’re alone.
9. You will learn to love yourself and appreciate your life. Sometimes relationships restrict you and makes your world smaller but with ‘singlehood,’ it teaches you to embrace life with a different perspective. You learn to appreciate your time with your family, friends, and your quiet “me time.”